​ People fear what they do not understand and cannot control.

Death is the ultimate, inevitable, unknowable experience.

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What you think, what you fear and what you believe about who you are as a person and as a soul of divine energy make a difference in how quickly and clearly you connect intuitively with your loved ones in spirit. 

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You will continue to have an experience of your loved one after they have transitioned.

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It is up to you how you approach it. If you put them in a logically acceptable box in your mind labeled 'someone that once was,'  reminiscing will be your experience of them in grief. This is an opportunity for you to move through the grief and begin a new journey with your loved one you never imagined possible.

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Every once in a while you will get a sign; a bird or a butterfly trying to get your attention, a well-placed feather or coin or a much needed, timely synchronicity and you may get a chill or goose bumps or feel a sense of your loved one standing next to you; at these moments you have the opportunity to choose to revisit your idea of your current experience of your loved one.

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You can question and doubt the sign and put the experience in a logically acceptable box in your mind labeled 'interesting coincidence' and keep your loved one as a memory or you can take a breath, release the fear of the unknown, and acknowledge their effort to get your attention in the here and now.

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You are divine energy guided and supported by a higher power than your logical mind and it is possible to live a life your mind hasn’t yet dreamed of. 

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By acknowledging the sign as your loved

one's current effort to get your attention

here and now you are acknowledging their 

continued existence and efforts to reach you

now and as you do the door in your mind

opens wider, the connection gets stronger,

and the signs get clearer.

As the signs and messages get clearer the

heart begins to heal which makes the

connection even stronger. It becomes an

interesting dynamic and gives the transition

process a new sense of purpose in exploring

the connection beyond bereavement. 

As the heart heals because of the innate

recognition of our continued experience

of each other as souls the mind starts to

create hurdles.

People will doubt what they know they

knew just a minute ago when they 

acknowledged a sign from their loved one

and some will even start to feel guilty for

getting excited at the thought of the loved

one and shame for not feeling grief at

the thought of the loved one.

This has been a great difficulty for parents

that have lost children.

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People will get signs that bring a feeling

of joy to the heart when they recognize the effort of their loved one to reach them in the now and then the mind will create an experience of guilt for not being sad that they are gone. These are the moments when Heartmath can really help. Taking one simple heart focused breath after another can help you find the space to be present with the excitement of connecting.

*It is especially helpful to consider that the energy of excitement that you initially felt when recognizing the sign just may have been your loved ones excitement at being recognized in your own energetic field.

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We do share our experiences energetically. Consider sharing their excitement instead of asking them to share your sadness, for when a sign gets through that really is something for everyone to be excited about. 

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Although grief has its place in the process of healing and it must be acknowledged and respected, and we all heal in different ways and some spend longer periods in deep grief than others you don’t need to feel stuck there.  This can be a way of turning your grief into healing and develop a peaceful understanding of the afterlife.  An understanding of the beautiful souls that we are, that we are more than our physical body, and that we can communicate with our loved ones on the other side.

 

Your loved ones in spirit feel everything you feel, your love, your joy, your pain, your sadness…they work endlessly to get your attention to let you know that they are right there and they are okay. Give yourself permission to feel the joyand happiness they want you to feel by recognizing their signs, even if you are not sure, acknowledge it is possible they are reaching out, don’t dismiss anything, and you will see the signs

will come more often and much clearer just by you opening up to the possibility they are real.  It gives them such joy to know you are recognizing their signs that they have tried sohard to get through.  Honor them by acknowledging who they are now and work toward having a new relationship with them by communicating on a different level.

 

Exploring a continued connection and conversation with a loved one in spirit is a path through grief that can open a line of communication with spirit in you that leads you beyond bereavement to a clearer connection with your higher power.

 

All that is needed is courage and an open mind.

 

If you believe there is something more than you know, the door of curiosity opens in the mind and access to that experience is available.

If you are certain they are gone they will give you the freedom to have that experience.

It is your choice.

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The more you work with the energy the more the energy works with you. Once you open the door in your mind it really is up to you to keep it open. Listening to the channels and coming back and listening to others experiences keeps that door open and the energy available for the signs.