Teaching Kids Right from Wrong
When we are teaching right and wrong to kids are we teaching duality?
It is as you are conveying. It is exactly what you are conveying. To justify in a child’s mind why something is right and something is wrong you are creating in them a sense of certainty, a sense of imprinting, if you will, and it does create that sense of duality for in spirit it is not so emphasized – this right and this wrong. It is more about the fluidity of movement and the cohesiveness of those moves. That’s what we want to teach, the cohesiveness.
We want to know how we can be moving in this society as one. That should be our motivation; not how we separate, not how we accomplish one over another but how we move together to create a more cohesive movement. The right and the wrong tends to separate, tends to give them that sense of certainty that logic loves but that the soul tends to blur in its reality. So what you are asking is - is it right to teach right from wrong? What we would say is there is a certain amount of naivety that the innocents come in with and they need a certain amount of guidance and teaching right and wrong sounds so permanent and structured. The way to approach this is a more cohesive movement where you are guiding the soul in how to align with what feels purposeful in that cohesive movement.
An example is being on the playground and watching the bully pick on another. What is the right thing to do? What is the wrong thing to do? And what is the cohesive movement? In your mind you’ve already configured the answers to that, right? The right thing is to help the child that is being bullied. The wrong thing is to assist the bully. The cohesive movement is to send love to both; to admit to yourself that neither are right or wrong but both are expressing themselves. The bully is expressing his intensity and the receiver is feeling overwhelmed in his fear and not allowing himself to feel entitled to be treated with respect and dignity. There are two that play the game. It is never just one.
Maybe the children could understand it. Maybe we’re not giving them the benefit of the doubt. Are they reflecting each other?
It is a big one. It is a big one for the logical mind to take in. It is more of a challenge to the adults that have already configured this right and wrong in their minds. You are right in saying that these little ones could grasp it in a way that the adults even sitting in this room may have a difficult time embracing but it is a truth that if we start them young enough they can grow from that foundation – that we all want to create cohesion here.